Friendship Etiquette

Just a thought , Anisha ! I am so fed up of people :(

When we meet , ask me how I am , how my family is - and not about the non - living things in my life ! In the same way , I do not care whether you own a palace , a costly car or a hefty bank balance. You , boasting about all this will not change the way I treat you , will not change the way I look at you . I am least bothered about your wealth and other assets.

If you are kind to me and treat me well , I will too. Even if you are not , I will be kind. That doesn't mean I am stupid - that just means I am mature enough to not stoop from my level.

Talk to me about your passion , your dreams , your aspirations , about the movie you watched last , about the place you travelled , what you learnt in life - there are so many interesting things to talk ! Timely jokes and sarcasms are most welcome ! Please do not talk to me about people and their personal life ! That really turns me off !

I will appreciate and admire you for your professional success. I will be happy to share your joy. But that doesn't mean I have to hear it repeatedly until my ear starts to bleed. I understand your need to prove your superiority. But unfortunately , that doesn't make me feel closer to you. I get bored and irritated easily by such ruthless display of superiority.

Please do not bring jealousy into our relationship ! I , being friendly to people other than you doesn't need your approval. My friends circle might include people whom you are not fond off . That doesn't mean I shouldn't move with them. Even if I move with them that doesn't mean we are talking about you in your absence , so do not get paranoid. Please have friends and allow me to have my own circle too ! We are not in a romantic relationship , after all :P

If you talk about your other friends badly to me that's a big , big red flag for me ! I will be very careful with you.

I do not help you ,  thinking ,  you will help me some other time. I do whatever I do wholeheartedly and with love. But , when I need help , I look up to you - not because I helped you , but because you are my friend ! If you find it difficult to have that minimum courtesy , you can never be my friend.

Do not make friendship a business. You do not have to reciprocate everything in the exact way I do , or stop doing something because I haven't done so. If it happens , when I look at you , I see a business man rather than a friend.

Just because we are friends , we do not have to imitate each other. We are two different personalities , our interests are different. Let us be ourselves ,  yet , happy together.

Do not use me , I am not a thing !

Friendship is a beautiful thing. It must help us grow , must support us during our weak moments and cheer us during our happy times. I don't want someone who disappears or distances themselves during my difficult times ; I don't want someone who gets jealous at the wink of an eye when I share my happiness ; and I do not want someone who constantly competes with me and tries to prove his/her superiority ! If you compete with me , compare yourself with me , I will distance myself from you , as I find it extremely uncomfortable.

I wish I could have a friend with whom I could be as comfortable as I am with myself. But as I get older , I realize , people are extremely insecure , judgemental and biased. It is very hard to make friends ( although I do have a few good ones ! ) How I wish I had a friend like me ! :)

I did have a friend like me , but ..... but....

❤
Amma